Asked what they most regretted, retirees named lack of preparation for retirement. You? People who regret missed chances from past, also tended to focus less on present prospects.
No wonder lamenters continue to miss out daily. New studies show that older folks should let go of regret faster, with some indication that younger people can benefit from holding onto regrets longer. At all ages use caution as regret can be deadly as a spear to the mind.
Regret’s a bit like staring out the rear view mirror while navigating fast forward on a busy freeway. Far better to glance back at regrets intermittently in rear view mirrors, yet gaze intently out front windows to build trust that moves us forward with focus.
Rarely Easy at First
Regrets for failed finances, for what could have been, for caring words left unspoken, for dreams left unreached. Whether regret’s for starting late, working little, spending much, failing tests, or trusting the wrong people, regret opens a crash course for more failure. You could say, it beams light on doors left unopened, yet fails to illumine opportunities ahead.
How do you let go of regret?
Strategies to consider:
- Chase one new adventure today and watch past disappointments dim. Working memory delights in current ventures.
- Risk refiring a favorite hobby. Or launch new project for profit or fun, and your brain rewires past regrets into new wonders most people merely dream of reaching.
- Inspire new incentives with a diverse group, and prevent your brain from defaulting back to ruts of regret that block creativity.
- Draw on a few more intelligences, and stomp out regrets that come from limited mental resouces.
- Laugh at the little things today, and regrets will flee in humor’s chemical hormones released in the brain, for new life with fresh chances.
- Change the chemical and electrical networks in your brain from regret to rejuvenated relationships that emulate care and curiosity.
Bypass Dangers of Regret
Think of regret as the dam that stops fresh flowing waters finances, or sudden roadblocks that barricade new highways opportunities.
Can you see regret now from your brain’s perspective?
The opposite of regret that stops your progress, is …? Begin there, do the opposite today, and your brain rewires its plasticity to rejuvenate your situation.
Because of our unique mix of intelligences, answers differ for different people, but your brain can transform regret into positive financial brainpower, say, only when you act on grief’s opposites.
Smart skill 31 = Move Tone Tools to Open Opportunities
Smart skill 32 = Move Past Regret by Doing its Opposite
Smart skill 33 = Move Beliefs into Action to Win
Smart skill 34 = Move Beyond Technology that Fails
Smart skill 35 = Move People Back to Center
Smart skill 36 = Move Beyond Myths of Safety
Smart skill 37 = Move Brainpower into Reconfigured Learning
Smart skill 38 = Move to Replace Broken Systems
Smart skill 39 = Move Innovation into Invention
Smart skill 40 = Move Intelligences up a Notch Today