Tag Archives: tone

Tame My Myg or Stick Me Sad!

We all come to the table with emotional intelligence – that impacts vital choices we make to progress or regress. Did you know that your brain’s amygdala holds every good and bad choice you’ll make today? Or are you aware that  stored responses pop back up to become emotional choices… Read more »

Survey Your Tone Skills – A Standing Ovation to Diversity

Tone tools can create goodwill – even in war zones! The body language of communication, tone brings a smile of inclusion or adds a snub of rejection. Tone benefits embody the warmth of thanks, while its lack chills through sneers and criticism. Not surprisingly, good tone tools help you to… Read more »

5 Mistakes We Make in Building Learning Cultures

Most leaders and faculty agree that to capitalize on the brain’s known abilities is to create a climate for high performance minds.  Most learners agree that  care and support can transform ordinary learning into fun-filled adventures and delightful discoveries. Sadly though, science about brains and observation of failed cultures sheds… Read more »

Brain Based Tasks for Older Learners

While we now know that students retain less from lectures, we question how to cultivate brain based cultures that trigger observable and impressive growth. Good news! It’s actually easier than most realize – to get older students active and growing in any class! Enter six little namungos with big brainy… Read more »

Transform Sarcasm into Humor with Mental Muscle

Imagine a learning and leading circle not handcuffed to past sarcasms that exclude some, but freed with humor that benefits all! Build mental muscle that transforms sarcasm into humor that fosters learning and raises IQ for many! People who enjoy sarcasm defend its harsh, bitter derision as mere irony and… Read more »

From Poor Tone – to Brainpower for Innovation

Luckily we can overcome our brain’s default for ruts that foster poor tone as evidenced in many conflicts – to create instead – tone for an innovative world order forward. 1.       Affirm another person’s thoughts before sharing your views on the other side – to show that you really heard,… Read more »

Brainpower for Democracy or Demolition?

If you agree that democracy as we deem it – can make a mockery of human engagement – you likely also see value in facilitation that communicates across differences. Few disagree that a well run democracy adds immense brainpower by raising worker engagement. Yet  Gallop Management Journal surveyed annual worker… Read more »

Why Meetings Suck if Bullies Speak

(Appeared in Smart Brief on Your Career on April 22, 2010) (Appeared in (Practicing Law Institute) PLI Smart Brief April23,2010). See innovative meetings e-handbook here for dozens of practical strategies that bring meetings alive where you work. When bullies pop an irate question or cynics insist on opinions that provoke… Read more »

Snip your Amygdala Before you Snipe Back

Did you know that emotions survive after memories vanish? Or do you wonder what moods and behavior heads or hearts control? Yesterday,  on a walk in the woods with a gifted young leader, I once again saw his ethics, openness and willingness to become vulnerable in order to learn new… Read more »

Meta-messages – Lower Intelligence

Have you noticed  people who speak meta-messages that leave victims running for escape hatches? You begin to question flaws between their lines because what you hear is not what the speaker means. How does it happen? People who lack interpersonal  intelligence, tend to use meta-messages instead of honest communications, and… Read more »

Move Tone Tools to Open Opportunities

Have you ever observed a skilled facilitator use tone tools to turn around a tough situation? Tone skills open mental gateways both to speak ethically and to feel heard. They also communicate respect across differences, and find winning solutions within opposing views. What’s your tone IQ? People who engage others,… Read more »

Expect Peace in Brain Based Bits

Imagine a climate of peace, with language that inspires, and people who cheer on your talents. Would you agree that peace would have been a better plan than war in most cases you’ve observed? Not a passive peace, but a robust plan where many angles from different viewpoints move forward… Read more »

Target Tone Skills for Tough Times

I’ve been trying to tap into better tone skills in difficult settings, and find I still have a  distance to go to snip that amygdala before it snipes back. It’s often a matter of reflecting on tools to move forward with respect rather than frustration. Did you know, for instance… Read more »

Tone Kills or Cultivates Brainpower!

Watch your tone, or prepare for a fight with cynics the next time a disagreement arises! Have you noticed how highly successful people use  tone to advance their lives and communities? Or how ineffective people clobber brainpower all around them? It’s no coincidence since tone is the fuel that drives… Read more »

Wired for War or Poised for Peace?

How we situate images of war affects how our brains wire to support or reject it. Replace words such as war on terror with expressions that grow stronger communities, and our brains shift from expectations of violence to proposals for peace across differences. Imagine a place of prosperity where no… Read more »

Target Agreement in Disagreeable Settings

While some leaders literally wire their brains for gridlock and compromise that can poison communications, it’s also true that disagreements can  blast open  doors to life-changing ethical insights.  When people differ with the brain in mind, they build goodwill among those who differ. How so? If you’ve ever benefited from… Read more »

Beat Intimidation with Creative Vision

Whenever you cotton onto the notion that people or problems diminish you, that self-critique begins to bury your brain’s tools for excellence. In contrast, your brain holds hidden reflection equipment to build visions that develop confidence and take risks to achieve mind-bending results. Yes, regardless of other’s impressions of your… Read more »